Well, the hubby finally finished his Self Study! You now have a reason to go out and celebrate!!! I'm not really sure why we've taken so long to complete the packet. There hasn't really been any good reason other than that we simply...hadn't finished it. God's timing is perfect though and I learned long ago from our adoption specialist that if God wanted us to get everything done over night, we would have! We'll finish getting copies of certain items and send everything in next week!
God is working on my heart a lot lately. Again, never allow me to offend you with anything we say or write on here. Our heart's desire with this blog is that others can experience our adoption with us, as well as maybe in some small way gain encouragement or understanding through something we write. SO MANY people have asked if it makes us mad that we have to do so much work to adopt when people seemingly unqualified can have babies with no questions asked. I haven't really had an excellent answer to this, so I thought I would try to get my thoughts down on paper...or keyboard.
To be quite frank, it hasn't even entered my mind, or Daniel's, to be mad or upset at the process. For that is simply what it is...a process. Anyone out there who has a child through pregnancy didn't go through the adoption process, they went through the pregnancy process...something completely different.
Truly, I believe this question comes from others sympathizing with the fact that we're not pregnant. Most everybody out there sees adoption as something that is done because a baby is not coming the "correct" way. It is seen as a last resort to have a child. Now, I know most of you out there reading this blog do not see Daniel and I as having a child the "wrong" way, but deep down, I believe that society has implanted a largely negative view of adoption in most people's minds. To answer an unvoiced question on many of your minds, Daniel and I have not gone through an "infertility" period where we tried everything possible to conceive a biological child and then resorted to adoption. Those of you who know us closely, know the details of our story better, but at this time, I've chosen not to include certain parts of our story for the world to read. We're not adopting because we "can't get pregnant." God, simply, led us to it through many different avenues. Maybe someday we will welcome a biological child into our family, but God hasn't said "yes," yet to that! I suppose if not conceiving was the reason behind our adoption, I could understand how we might have bitterness towards the whole process. However, because of the timing and the way God moved in our hearts towards adoption, we have been graciously spared of going through the horror so many have experienced with infertility.
So, in some unexplainable way, I view this whole process as an exciting adventure that is leading us to a life that, ahem, I hope we're ready for...no more sleeping in and running out the door on a whim! I don't know why God has chosen us to go down this path but I'm so very glad He has. It sounds crazy to so many, but I can't wait to meet our birth mom. I can't wait to see her face and shower God's love on her. I can't wait to smile at her and say, "this is all for a purpose. Your baby is not a mistake or an accident. He was created by the hands of God, planned for this exact time. I promise to love him as much as you love him already." Of course, depending on what happens, I may never get to do that, but I pray that one day I will have the liberty to meet her and say everything that is in my heart concerning her. We shall see! Please, please pray that God's will is done on this journey.
As we finish up our home study over the next few months, pray that the money is provided in completing the adoption. The amount, in full, will be due upon the completion of the 10 day period after bringing our baby home. (Amount still needed: approximately $6000) After finishing the Home Study (which could be any time), we could be chosen any day by a birth mom. She will have 24 to 48 hrs after the birth of the baby to sign the papers making us the legal parents. At the time of her signature, the 10 day period starts. On the 10th day, the money is due. So...the time when we need the money could be coming up very shortly, or it could still be a while. It's all God's timing! To those of you have provided financially, emotionally, prayerfully, and in any other way, we cannot thank you enough. You are part of God doing an amazing work. May God bless you.
Megan
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